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Talk, talk, talk

The number one thing a girl can do is talk, advised Gina Stewart of Expert Online Dating.

“Seriously most girls don't say anything ever. Initiate. Only 8 percent of women initiate conversations on dating apps. Ask questions. The best way to get a conversation going is to ask something. Compliment. And flirt. Say something like,'it seems you have good taste in women, but we will have to see about your taste in music. Top five living artists: go.'”

Use things like Tinder moments to regenerate interest in yourself and create conversations. Post fun pictures and put comments on them or ask questions to get guys to respond. Also, like and comment on their Tinder moments, Stewart said.

“You should seem open to actually meeting. Put it in your bio. Guys get tired of putting in effort that they feel won't go anywhere. If you want a guy to talk to you at least seem open to moving things along. In your bio, tell guys that swipe right to you that you will respond if they reach out. It goes a long way,” she said.

She also said it's important to prove you're real. “Believe it or not a lot of the girls guys see on dating apps are fakes. Webcam solicitations and autobots abound and guys are often trying to weed through to find the real girls.”

Be playful

“A woman can intrigue a guy by being playful. Find something innocuous on his profile that you disagree with or don't like (such as a movie) and then add, 'But everything else on your profile looks good.' A guy probably isn't expecting to get called out for something on his profile, but remember you have to be playful, not mean,” suggested Anita Chlipala, a relationship expert and founder of Relationship Reality 312, Inc.

Do's and dont's

Sameera Sullivan of Lasting Connections gives her best tips on meeting guys on a dating app:

“If a guy just sends 'hi' or 'hey' through a dating app messenger, do not respond. He’s likely sending that to all of his matches and waiting for someone to engage him in a conversation. A man needs to send you a sentence or two to make it worth your time. I have seen many women who send a long-paragraph response to a simple 'hi.' That kind of response comes off as desperate,” she said.

When you do talk, she said, “don’t just talk about yourself. Asking questions about their interests will intrigue most intelligent, non self-absorbed guys. Keep the questions semi-vague. No personal questions about their dating or sexual history.”

“When you do answer a question, don’t respond with filler words such as 'yeah' or 'same.' For the guy that you may actually be interested in, take the time to reply with a sentence or follow-up question.”

Opt for video

Dating apps such as Lasting Connections and soon Tinder as well have launched a video profile option. Take the 30 seconds to introduce yourself, briefly talk about a couple of your interests and most importantly, the qualities in a guy you are looking for. This will weed out the guys you don’t fit what you’re after in a relationship, she said.

“Do not get into chatting games with people. Back and forth can be too much and a sure way to fade the interest. You want to keep the suspense alive,” Sullivan said.

Meet them - fast

And lastly, she said, “There should be no reason for you to not meet in person in the first week. Go with your gut ladies and stop ignoring red flags. If something doesn't feel right, it’s probably not. Don't try to make it work just to make it work before the relationship has even begun.”

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